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I can’t live without lists. I often put everything on my daily lists including doing dishes, phone calls to family and time to browse my favorite blogs. I love the feeling of the completion of even the simplest tasks. It fuels me and helps me organize my constantly running mind. I have yearly lists of personal accomplishments I want to achieve. I have both monthly and yearly business lists that act as mini, ever changing business plans. Yes, I am a list addict but I love it.
People have interesting relationships with their to-do lists. Some people are good about writing them but actually do so on random scraps of paper, easily hidden on a desk full of stuff. Others put a million things on their list making accomplishing them almost impossible. The latter also often don’t make time for important things like sleep, exercise or proper diet. Perfectionism might be the leading cause of this behavior or a love for the masochistic feeling of self-induced failure. Creating an unattainable list is the worst form of self care.
What is your relationship with your to do list? What habits surrounding the list would you like to change?
I want to help guide you to creating what I call a “winning time management formula.” The trick here is that I cannot tell you exactly what that should be. We all have our own needs and ways of working but I will share my own formula for inspiration and help you discover yours.
The biggest issue is often developing an understanding of what is a reasonable amount to accomplish and a certain amount of time. I will always encourage you to put extra goals on your monthly and yearly goal lists but your daily should be something you can actually achieve. Creating a common feeling of “there just isn’t enough time” and “damn, I didn’t finish it all again” is no good. It creates a downward spiral of negative feelings and honestly does no one any good. So a good rule of thumb is to only put three to four big tasks on your list a day. You will need to define what big tasks mean to you. If you work from home it may go something like this:
Wake up
Big task – go to the gym
Work
Big task – lunch meeting with client
Work, emails, social media
Create/make
Big task – art opening
Dinner at home with partner
In this case three big tasks seem like enough. You could have dinner out with friends or go to another social networking event but doesn’t that dinner at home seem so much more refreshing and rejuvenating. Another event might really affect your productivity the next day.
So how do you create this list? Well my winning formula may seem like a lot to most. I use a combination of paper and online productivity programs. My year long goals go on a pretty piece of paper on my wall and often arise from a huge brain dump on every New Years Day. This list includes both personal and professional goals. My personal goals I just let float in the universe and I look at the list often and check things off as I go or change things as my desires change. Going backwards, I create monthly to do lists for the business. These go on both large note cards that are on my wall and in a program called Hitask. In Hitask, I can break everything down into weekly and daily tasks. I do the same every Sunday. I plan my week Sunday evening and write things down on daily note cards that I can keep on my desk and grab every morning (Thanks Lauren and Derek of Curiosity Shoppe for this trick!). I put events on my Google calendar with timers reminding me 1 to 2 days ahead. This may seem like a lot but I am sharing this because I quickly learned that I cannot live on software programs alone but I love their timers and email reminders. I love pretty paper, notes on my walls and the ability to physically check things off so I have to use pen and paper too. The key here is to develop an understanding of what does and doesn’t work for you and to accept that you have to find your own formula. There are plenty of app experts out there if you need more guidance and feel free to contact me for more specifics too.
Remember energy will fluctuate. Sometimes we get this crazy energy and can get so much done and other times we just want to crumble the list up. It’s ok! Instead pick a thing you really really want to do and you are passionate about and focus on doing just that. That alone can be rejuvenating and inspiring.
Life will throw curveballs. You won’t always be able to stick to your lists. But let the lists ground you and give you sanity when things go awry. At least you have created a reference and can go back and see what you actually didn’t get done.
Shelly Kerry — Lightbox SF
Shelly Kerry is the founder of the program Creating Space, Mindful Living – motivating and inspiring people to run their businesses more efficiently. She helps others look at their personal and professional lives and explore what is and isn’t working. As a jewelry designer she has spent many years testing and honing the skills and discipline needed to run your own creative business while still having time for friends, family and fun. She puts her wealth of experience to use in the Creating Space service – healthy living advice to help keep you motivated and make the most out of your already busy schedule. She will help you find both the physical and emotional space so you can pursue your dreams and she’ll always insist there’s time for yourself.
Shelly writes guest posts on living your best life on well-known blogs such as Kanelstrand, Handmade Success and Awfully Grand and is pursuing a Core Strengths coaching certificate through San Francisco State University.
You can find Creating Space on Facebook or contact Shelly at lightboxsf.com







This is great advice for creating goals and a time management process for your business or busy life.
I have learned I have a fear of success, so I have put goal setting and completing tasks for a long time. After completing a mandatory college class almost three years ago, I saw the importance of setting goals. I set goals and used them to graduate from college earlier this year at 41 yrs old.
I also realize that I am not going to be able to create a business, run it, or even keep track of my family’s busy schedule if I don’t have goals and time management procedures in place. I will try placing my list of business goals on an eye-catching piece of paper that I can see often and daily cards with the most important task on each for that day.
Thanks again!
I have a daily to-do list that I got from mayi carles at Heartmade, printed it out, laminated it, and put it on my wall next to a dry-erase marker on a string
Not only is is super cute (thanks Mayi!) but it has sections for “must do”, “would be nice”, and “if I have time” each day so I can prioritize my most to least important tasks and not be so stressed about the things that dont get done that were in the “would be nice” pile. Prioritizing is definitely the #1 way to go for optimal time management. And I like how you mentioned that your daily list should be something you can actually achieve – and when you consistently have too many things on our list that you don’t accomplish it wrecks your mood and self esteem – that’s so true! Thanks so much for a great and helpful post!
Thanks so much for this post Shelly! I always feel like I NEED every post you write! Just writing the list has been a huge step for me ever since I started working at home more. I really like the idea of scheduling even the more routine things in your day. I am in The Catalyst Course with the Maven Circle and they talked about putting taking a bath on your todo list or calendar and I just love that idea of self-care being on there too!
@Christy – After having my second kid last year and continuing to do things the same way (read: no lists) I was completely disorganized and exhausted by then end of this last summer. I really needed to acknowledge what I needed to get done, write it down, do it and cross it off. It has made me so much more productive! Good luck to us both
@Amy – Prioritizing is awesome! I have a todo list from Boy Girl Party that have two circles to fill in: done and do later. It makes me so happy to be able. I am really in love with the idea of laminating and reusing. You are brilliant!
Thanks everyone for reading. I always love learning about others techniques.
@ Christy – Congrats on graduating!!! That is incredible. I always loved the structure of the school year and often pull from my college experience to help come up with new scheduling techniques.
@Amy – Laminating the paper! What a great idea! thanks for sharing and I couldn’t agree more on how daily unattainable goals can hurt self-esteem
@Kerry – Self care is key isn’t it? Thanks for your support and so happy I could help!